Saturday, May 17, 2014
One among the things that make most of us not successful in our life is not being responsible for whatever takes our life where it is now. We had been programmed our mind to make other people responsible for our own life situation hence we become so disappointed and stressed whenever they do not fulfill our needs and expectations. And in reality people and systems never manage to fulfill everything we want from them. We must change and become full responsible of our own life if we want to be balanced and successful.
Being in control of your life is one among the natural laws of success which everyone need. You just need a sense of control of every sphere of your life to feel successful. Whenever another person or situation seem to control you is when you start feeling uncomfortable of your own life. One among the biggest factor which makes people out of control in their life is when they are not responsible of their own life. For instance if you think the government is responsible to give you everything then it is obvious that this government will control your life.
Because it is not in a position to offer you whatever you demand from it, expect it to setup a lot of laws and conditions which will control you not to embarrass it hence you won’t get your demand plus a lot of disappointment and stresses in your life. Therefore you won’t be successful this way.
This applies the same to those who give their parents responsibilities for their own life, some give their lovers, husbands and wives, doctors and teachers and they wonder why they never become successful the way they want through these people.
If you are responsible for your own health you won’t blame your doctor for not giving you the right medicine every time instead you will do whatever makes your health good before even going to a doctor, you will eat balanced diet, you will do physical body exercises, you will have positive attitude etc.
A responsible student won’t blame his/her teacher for not supplying enough handouts instead he/she will seek where these handouts are and read. You see! Irresponsibility is what drags many people behind to achieve their success in life. And a big sign of not being responsible is being a blamer every time and pointing fingers to someone or something every time.
You can change this irresponsibility cancer by:
Always saying, “I am responsible for this” whenever you face a challenge in your life. Repeat saying this many times until your mind opens up ideas on how you are going to handle the situation and succeed in life. At first it will sound awkward saying that while grinning your teeth but as you continue your muscles will start loosening up and you will feel released.
Benefits of being responsible:
You are going to kill all negative attitudes in your personality and become an always happier person. You will never become anger in your life, you will have a sense control in your life, you will love everyone and become loved by everyone hence your relationships will be wonderful. You will be more creative and peak performer at work plus life as whole and you will spiritually and healthily become fit and better. In general you will have an ultimate successful life.
Choose to be responsible of your own life now if you real want to become successful.
By Erick Chrispin
Wednesday, April 9, 2014
Probably starting a business is one among your great dreams.
Are you also stacking to initiate a business or start business due to lack of opportunities? I have talked to many people who real want to start business but apart from lacking capital they end up saying they can’t easily see potential opportunities to start viable businesses. There are many also who have capital but they can’t see any opportunity to invest their money.
Today I want to share with you proven techniques you can use to easily see opportunities to pursue your dream of starting a business.
First of all you must understand that it takes your awareness on what is going on around you to be able to see opportunities to start a business. For opportunities is all about discovering a gap to fill with something missing. This means that if you can be able to detect a certain need in people’s life then you have already seen a gap and it will become an opportunity as you recognize and innovate a way to fill that gap or fulfill that need of people.
Discover your personal potential
For every human being is blessed with unique and potential ability or talent to live by, this means that your talent or career can determine your ability to discover potential business opportunities. Ask yourself this question: “I know I am having this talent or career, what need of people can it solve if is to apply it now? As soon as you finish asking yourself this question, your subconscious mind will start responding to you positively by opening up a lot of possibilities and opportunities which can be covered by your talent or career. Don’t waste time; start writing down what you hear from your mind for research shows that you will always loose memory of whatever hasn't been written in 37 seconds just after you get it in your mind.
A good thing is that from this process you are going to see a lot of opportunities, now be positive take advantage of them, choose that which you would love working on and start generating and planning on how it is going to work in the real world, think of how you are going to make people buy it from you and that will be your new business. Can we call this seeing an opportunity from within outward? Of course YES.
Develop a habit of learning different things
Do this small observation today, talk to three businessmen you know, I am promising you that you will wonder how they know a lot of different things which are going on in their society apart from their career and business they pursue. The fact is they usually take time to learn a lot of different things, from economic, social to political one. They read books, magazines and personal reflections which make them learn from self experience to outside source of insights.
Remember at the beginning I said it takes your awareness to recognize opportunities to start a business so if you will take time to involve yourself into learning different stuffs, don’t wonder seeing a lot of needs to be fulfilled around you and as you start thinking on how you are going to fulfill them by using business model then you got a business to do in your life.
Find solutions to social and people’s problems
Keep in mind that you will always sell your service or products to people, nothing else. If so, people are 100% ready to buy by any cost something which makes their life better and easy. If you will come up with a promising and innovative solution to people’s problems or challenges just around your context you are sure of making business out of it.
If this is too hard for you, make it simple by asking people what do they want which is missing around them. They may tell you, “we real miss a pharmacy shop nearby where we could easily buy medicine”, and don’t you think if you find capital and start a small pharmacy or of any size in that area people will buy? It is obvious you are going to do business out there. Keep on recognizing social problems and find solutions.
Volunteer into community activities
The truth is whenever there is people gathering is where you can hear a lot of ideas, issues, concerns etc. if you are dreaming to be a business man find a way you can be meeting groups of people several times and share different ideas. From sharing people will eventually tell you what they need which they can even buy. What else than bringing them that service? Naturally people tend to share a lot of information when they meet a group of people where they can freely talk.
It is hard for a person who doesn't have an idea of starting a business to take advantage of people’s random conversations and create an opportunity to start a business and vice versa is true. So if you one among those who want to start up a business start today to be involved into community activities just by volunteering. Volunteer in your church, mosque and community development projects. Just be within community gatherings which makes you feel happy being involved and I promise you that you are going to discover potential business opportunities right there.
Hope these insights are going to make it happen in your life; all the best!
Friday, March 7, 2014
Are you also facing a challenge of hating negative and critical feedback from other people?
This is a big challenge to most of us; without knowing, it makes us dormant in improving our life and we wonder why we are not succeeding like others.
This day I was reading a book written by Jack Canfield (The success principles) and he shared the way you can use negative and critical feedback to improve your life in different careers. I decided I should use such a technique in my seminar a day after where it gave me a number of constructive feedback which improved the way I have to run my seminars next time. And all these feedback were coming from my seminar participants.
1 up to 10 Rule
You can just ask this question to anybody; your staff members, boss, wife, children, friends, workmates or anyone you think would give you constructive feedback for improving yourself; “how many points are you giving me between 1 to 10 in for instance my business, training facilitation, my relation to you etc? The response should be any number let say 8. After that ask this person; what should I do so that you rate or give me 10? The response will be all the things you should improve and however those feedback will sound critical but they are those if you work on them you are sure to be improved in that specific area.
As I applied this technique in my seminar every participant rated me his/her own number. Some said 8 some 9 and some 10. Those who rated below 10 I started asking them about what should I do to get 10 and these were some of the constructive feedback I got:
§ I should reduce lectures and allow the participants work in groups
§ I should give them a break during the seminar simply because that day I didn't do that
§ I should use more games and role plays etc.
The fact is, that day I didn't apply most of these methods in my seminar due to some reasons but how if I didn't use this method to ask my participants? Then I couldn't know and remember the importance of these methods next time and my seminar couldn't be improved probably.
Some of them gave me 10 and my question to them was, “what should I do to maintain this 10 next time?” and this allowed them to tell me what I have to add in my seminar facilitation and I wrote down all these feedback from which I applied in the next seminar somewhere else hence I could feel improved.
According to Jack Canfield and my trial, this method applies everywhere. You can even ask your wife or husband to rate you in terms of your relationship to him/her throughout past week and the response will be all the things that your partner would like you to change and improve in your relationship. What you have to do is being positive towards negative or critical feedback plus not defending yourself when someone gives you that negative feedback and instead thanking them for being ready and honest to share with you plus promising them to use their feedback improving yourself next time.
This will work as a kind of appreciation to them and it will make them free to share with you again next time and they may also be ready to do so without even asked by you in future hence you will be improving every time and become more successful.
I wish you the best in transforming your life into a successful one by taking an advantage of critical and negative feedback you get from other people.
By Erick Chrispin