Friday, March 7, 2014
Are you also facing a challenge of hating negative and critical feedback from other people?
This is a big challenge to most of us; without knowing, it makes us dormant in improving our life and we wonder why we are not succeeding like others.
This day I was reading a book written by Jack Canfield (The success principles) and he shared the way you can use negative and critical feedback to improve your life in different careers. I decided I should use such a technique in my seminar a day after where it gave me a number of constructive feedback which improved the way I have to run my seminars next time. And all these feedback were coming from my seminar participants.
1 up to 10 Rule
You can just ask this question to anybody; your staff members, boss, wife, children, friends, workmates or anyone you think would give you constructive feedback for improving yourself; “how many points are you giving me between 1 to 10 in for instance my business, training facilitation, my relation to you etc? The response should be any number let say 8. After that ask this person; what should I do so that you rate or give me 10? The response will be all the things you should improve and however those feedback will sound critical but they are those if you work on them you are sure to be improved in that specific area.
As I applied this technique in my seminar every participant rated me his/her own number. Some said 8 some 9 and some 10. Those who rated below 10 I started asking them about what should I do to get 10 and these were some of the constructive feedback I got:
§ I should reduce lectures and allow the participants work in groups
§ I should give them a break during the seminar simply because that day I didn't do that
§ I should use more games and role plays etc.
The fact is, that day I didn't apply most of these methods in my seminar due to some reasons but how if I didn't use this method to ask my participants? Then I couldn't know and remember the importance of these methods next time and my seminar couldn't be improved probably.
Some of them gave me 10 and my question to them was, “what should I do to maintain this 10 next time?” and this allowed them to tell me what I have to add in my seminar facilitation and I wrote down all these feedback from which I applied in the next seminar somewhere else hence I could feel improved.
According to Jack Canfield and my trial, this method applies everywhere. You can even ask your wife or husband to rate you in terms of your relationship to him/her throughout past week and the response will be all the things that your partner would like you to change and improve in your relationship. What you have to do is being positive towards negative or critical feedback plus not defending yourself when someone gives you that negative feedback and instead thanking them for being ready and honest to share with you plus promising them to use their feedback improving yourself next time.
This will work as a kind of appreciation to them and it will make them free to share with you again next time and they may also be ready to do so without even asked by you in future hence you will be improving every time and become more successful.
I wish you the best in transforming your life into a successful one by taking an advantage of critical and negative feedback you get from other people.
By Erick Chrispin
Sunday, January 26, 2014
I know you have a brilliant idea and dream to achieve in your life. That is a dream from which if you truly achieve it then you are sure of a good life you want in your life but unfortunately you never act upon it so it shifts from being a dream to something concrete, to something material WHY?
Someone who was a good guy told you that; for you to achieve your dream and goals you must set a plan of action and write it on paper which is very true and important but still you are not acting upon that plan you set and your dream is dying WHY? You now feel guilty whenever you remember your dream and a voice speaks in your mind asking you to do it but you FEAR to start doing it, why do you fear?
Anyway, fear is natural, everyone have fear but for you to achieve your dreams you must do something to defeat your fear. Remember FEAR means, “False experience appearing real”, always you fear about things which hasn’t happened yet, you are just imagining that they will be that way while you haven’t yet seen them in the real world. Fear is just a negative imagination which you build within your mind which is actually not real. YOU CAN STOP THIS BEHAVIOUR FROM TODAY and start creating positive imaginations in your mind which will help you defeat your fear. Instead of imagining that people will laugh at you, now imagine that people are going to applause and need your service ever. When negative imaginations of fear keep on coming to you, you also have to keep on reflecting on your positive imagination until you win it.
Action is a powerful healing
Have you ever noticed in your life that as long as you hesitate and delay to put your idea and plans into action is when your fear of starting it grows more? This is true due to the fact that your mind has two voices speaks to you every time, let say voice A is always telling you, “this is possible just do this way and you are going to achieve” this voice keep on giving you creative ways you can employ to achieve your dream and idea. As an opposite, voice B is always telling you, “ this is impossible, if you do it you are sure of falling down and fail, never try it” this voice keep on giving you negative thought in a form of images on how you are not deserving to do and achieve your dreams. This is a false voice which if you do not indulge yourself in voice A it will keep on growing your fear until you quit your dream.
What are you supposed to do?
Simple! Make sure you are always positive, believe in possibility in everything and ACTION should take a lead in your life, don’t wait to act because whenever to do something in action, the results will inspire you, will give you a reason why you should continue doing without fearing, it will activate your voice A to keep on giving you more techniques and opportunities to expand your dream. Action will end up permanently killing your fear to start any dream and idea you have and this is how you can start.
Start acting now, don’t wait to put that idea into writing now, don’t wait to write an action plan of your idea now, please go and meet those people whom you think can help you today, start acting that is the only way you can confront and defeat a fear you have in you, you are right there at the success point only if you are going to start acting upon your dream from today.
All the best
By. Erick Chrispin
Monday, January 20, 2014
When life is getting so tough and challenging keep on working hard anyway. I am telling you this because I am pretty sure that your precious dream for success is right there waiting for you to pursue it. The situation may be discouraging you so much, almost everyone runs away from you but at least you can’t run away from yourself, you can still talk to yourself and creatively think, strategize and go on following your dream.
It can reach a point where you are financially block, no more motivation to work and earn income, please! The worthiest thing you can do at that point is keep on working hard as if you are about to earn an abundant money for if you stop working you will be stagnating the money making mechanism hence lose all hopes of living successfully.
Your boss can be discouraging you so much due to his/her personal reasons but that should never be a reason for you to stop working hard, remember when you work hard and produce more you are not only doing it for your boss but for yourself too. You become competent in your career, other people see and like you most and they are the people who will value you and reward you with better job than what you have now plus big salary.
The dream you have in your life is 100% true and accomplishable only if you are going to commit yourself into doing it and working hard to achieve it. The amount of hard work you put into perusing your dream is equal to the achievement you are going to see or get. So if you want to get higher achievement it means you need to work harder than before. Work hard anyway coz that is going to realize your success at the end.
Jack Canfield the writer of principles for success once said if you work 45 hours a week is just for your survival but any hour you add on top of that every day is for your future success, is for your dream achievement, he also added that whenever you go to work, work don’t play with other time wasters for they are letting you down, they make you not achieve your intended goals and dreams. Work hard anyway.
Do you want to see your dreams come true! I hope so, please keep on working hard. Assume you are swimming and now you are deep into water struggling to come out for a little breath, you never give up struggling, that is like working hard to achieve your dreams, a lot of barriers on the way but you need to fight and struggle for a breath out of water coz it is 100% possible.
Work hard, work hard, work hard, work hard anyway and I am guaranteeing you abundant success afterwards!
All the best
By Erick Chrispin